Title of the Essay, Author, and Date

T he Ethics of Digital dating by Holly Richmond (April 1, 2013)

Title of the Reflection

Basic Principles of Digital Dating

First Impression

A n Essay about what we should or how we should when dating digitally

Quote

S how compassion and minimize harm

Reflection Paper

It's funny how technology had created a great impact in improving and making our daily living a whole lot easier, that even dating or your so-called “soul-searching” could just be one site away. The thought of partner searching on line is definitely ridiculous that even, I, would never hesitate to give it an ugly grimace as a remark of it's nonsensical method of finding someone you could share your insights with. Now don't get me wrong but I think only desperate people would dare to show a spark of interest to these sites. I may sound harsh but it's definitely true. I mean, ain't it creepy as a, uh, err, I really can't compare it to something more hair-raising. If there would be a contest for something that is definitely cringe-worthy, this would really bring home the bacon. No doubt. (No offense to those who find this site “effective”)

Imagine having a date with someone whom you've never met outside the realms of social media, isn't it creepy? Nah? Is your stomach starting to feel ticklish as if the butterflies in it are out of control because of the mere fact that you have already found your soul mate on line? Well, guess what, mine's as if the insides of my tummy is climbing to my throat. I definitely find it disgusting, that I couldn't even imagine how people deal with these bulls. How people could manage to blush in front of their computers because they are now dating on line with a total stranger. Some might defend their part by saying “he's not s stranger”, right. Remind me that again when I could even hardly used my cognitive senses. Just because you “google” him doesn't mean the information could be reliable. Googling a prospective date is shallow, intrusive upon your date's dignity, and betrays a fundamental lack of faith about life, love and the divine sweetness of the universe. Google is a search engine, not a crystal ball. Desperate people can no longer understand how life works. Our world must not revolve to social media. Not everything in it is helpful. The thought of you soul-searching on line is cringe-worthy. But the ugly truth is? It is now already widely accepted by lunatics and baboons. WHY AM I BITTER TOWARDS IT? Simply because it is not safe at all. But if you are already involving yourself with these “thing”, I hope I am not too late to warn you. Don't be such an open book. Keep your account somehow murky, never be transparent. It's scary when you never know that that person you are actually dating on line is an ex-convict or worse.

However, despite of all the scary side effects this “on line dating” has, some would really look on the bright side of it and still hoping to meet their one true love on line. Since social media has already been use as a medium for soul-searching today, I wouldn't be surprise if someone's gonna have a wedding on line, too. It wouldn't be eyebrow-raising anymore, but the thought would still definitely give you goosebumps or would make you shiver in a horrifying way.

5 Things That I've learned article:

1. Think before you Google. …And think after you Google.
2. Listen to your conscience.
3. Review your online presence
4. Tread extremely cautiously when dishing about your ex.
5. Be kind. “Show compassion” and “minimize harm.”

5 Integrative Questions

1. What exactly are you trying to find out? Why Googling someone will help you answer the question you are asking for that person?
2. Why honesty becomes even more important if you want something lasting with that person?
3. Why and what are the importance of being responsible of what we post in social media apps?
4. Why everybody says stupid stuff from time to time when tipsy, hurt or angry? Where your ex’s glib statement really need to live online in perpetuity?
5. What can you say when commenter noted that staying away from your ex on social media was like trying to stick to a diet, easily avoiding temptation on some days and relapsing on others?